C'est LA viE

I always want to write myself a bucket list, this bucket list shall have different types, travel is definite the must-write list, while others yet to be blogged in future include life and food.

So back to the bucket life for travel, I am not going to set a deadline but hopefully can tick at least one each year~

1. Aurora! - ideal place would be in Northern Europe, but apparent Lake Tekapo, NZ also have the chances, too bad i only discovered that after leaving my cloudy land.

2. Skydive in NZ - yep i set a place because I was thinking of did that before i back Malaysia for good, but somehow I didnt, so i really hope i can make that happen in the future.

3. visit Santa Clause's hometown - Finland - to be specific, i want to visit the christmas village during christmas time!

4. Countdown at Taipei 101   DONE!! 

5. Go Bolivia Salar De Uyuni and get an awesome photo!

6. Holding hands with my lover and have a short walk at Ukraint tunnel of love 

7. Hanami - enjoy cherry blossoms in Japan~

8. Lavender field at Provence, France~ 

9. Have a shot with the marry go round and eiffel tower and macaron at Paris!

10. Enjoy decent dessert at one of the cafe in Belgium

11. Autumn red leave at Kyoto~ nearly did that, but too bad I was too early, so will need to visit Kyoto in Autumn again~

12. Drive in Hokaiddo, enjoy the flower fields in summer

13. Go for the ice sculpture festival in Hokkaido, experience the magical white world

14. Disneyland and Disney Sea in Japan

15. Food hunting in Bangkok, take photos in various tourist spots

16. Korea - open my eyes  DONE! next would be visiting Jeju island, and revisit purpose

17. Backpacking in Europe, from one country to another

18. Tulips in Netherland, kayaking in one of the river

19. Hot air ballon in Turkey

20. Visit the big apple - New York

21. Go to the maple country - Canada~

22. Halong Bay @ vietnam~

23. Climb Mount Fuji

24. Visit Tokyo! 

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我们大部分人都听过人死后，会少了21克的重量，那是灵魂的重量，或许也是离开的人带走的重量

那我们离开后又留下了什么？我想绝对不止21克，除非他/她留下的只是一张遗书，然后离开前把所有东西都丢掉

不过即使在这个追求断舍离的时代，人类真的能完全不留下任何实质上的物件或照片，还是形态上的回忆和感情吗?

Move to Heaven 的概念算新颖，我曾看过日本电影《入殓师》对死亡的敬畏，和探讨现实对这些处理后世的相关职业的唾骂，但是即使如此死亡依旧鲜少成为一个普遍的题材

这部韩剧通过最近很夯的亚斯伯格综合症患者的视角来处理亡者留下的遗物，把亡者的遗愿传达给他们最挂念的家人，情人，等最重要的人，也同时探讨了人性的自私，现实的社会残酷

被人忽视的职业，遗物整理师，每个人的离开都值得慎重对待

这部剧是改编自一本韩国散文集 《离开后留下的东西》（金玺别著），作者本人就是一名遗物整理师，他把工作上亲身经历的事故和自身经验描述在书中，也让大众更加了解这份特殊的职业

不得不说，我个人很尊敬这份职业，因为它绝对不是一件容易的工作。剧情着重在描述遗物的下落和联系这遗物和其他人的感情铺排，对处理血水，被尸水腐烂的床褥，血液喷溅的遗迹的细节只是电到为止，可想而知现实处理这些状况的画面恐怕还有过之而无不及，所以我不得不敬佩这些职人

也许也因为长期都要面对这些常人不会接触的状况，剧里的人才会说像move to heaven 公司用心处理遗物的操作是非常少见的

主人公亚斯伯格症患者-可鲁的爸爸，韩静佑绝对是个暖男，他用他那份大于常人的爱去包容可鲁的不足，同时也用这份爱成全了可鲁的幸福，甚至驯服了弟弟尚久的脾性，找回对人与人之前感情羁绊和信任

某中程度上来说，没有爸爸韩静佑，就没有move to heaven,恐怕尚久出狱后还是浑浑恶恶的过日子，没有人生方向，韩静佑绝对是2位主人公最大的救赎

弟弟尚久其实本性不坏，只是小时候因为命运的安排让他误会了自己被哥哥抛弃让他不再相信任何人，加上自己曾经珍爱的徒弟差点死在自己手上更让他长期抱着罪孽，觉得自己不值得被爱

随着哥哥离开后有意的安排，他来到move to heaven，起初虽然确实是冲着哥哥留下的遗产来，但是在作为交换条件作为可鲁的监护人必须在move to heaven工作3个月后，他也渐渐被这份慎重的行业和可鲁处理遗物的方法而感化，找回自己遗失的部分。

细看这部剧，你会发现其实人走了以后，看似留下很多东西，但经过遗物整理师处理后，留下来的就只有一盒箱子，里面都承载着最珍贵的爱和回忆

既然是最后被留下来的，当然必须一定要有人接收，因为这份爱必须被传达到死者最珍重的人身上

我想起多年前disney pixar的动画电影<coco>里的灵魂说，如果在这世上没有人记得他们曾经来过，那这灵魂就会烟消云散

好比这个遗留下来的箱子一样，假若没有人接受，也许在世上就不会记得他们曾经对某人的爱，某个工作的热诚，某个兴趣的执作，他来过这世界上的印记是否就会消失?

当然活着本来就会死去，生命正因如此才会有意义，我也大可说既然最后都会离开，那又何必去在乎我们留下的印记是否有人捡起，我们的过去是否让别人想起

但是难道我们来到这世上都只是为自己而活吗？我绝对不赞同我们要盲目的为别人而活，不过我更相信人生来本就是群体动物，我们对某个老人家在家里孤独离开都会心疼，试问有多少人真的可以独来独往。

活在世上一定有你深爱的人，他或许是你的家人，情人，孩子，老师，同事等，我们在乎的不是所有人都记得我们，我们不过只是在乎我们在乎的人，所以我们才会留下照片，留下勋章，留下某些具有纪念价值的物品不是吗？

死去的人其实并非全然离开，他们依然活在我们的心中，正是如此，这些记忆才会难能可贵。看到他们留下的遗物，想起以前的他/她，就像从未离开一样。

死亡是每个人都必经的人生课题, 正因如此，生命才显得难能可贵

move to heaven 绝对是直面死亡这个课题，即使观众多不舍爸爸韩静佑的离开，多心疼可鲁接下来的人生，离开依然是必然的事

而且死亡是一瞬间的，它的到来可以毫无警惕且无法预测。他们的离开看起来不过只是消失而已，但对于还活下来的人来说却可以是翻天覆地的，深深的影响了他们以后过的日子

但是日子还是得过，就像这部剧中在亲人离开后，可鲁即使难过，即使还没有放下父亲的离去事实，他依然必须继续工作，日子还是需要继续前进

然后他就在不知不觉中慢慢学习放下，渐渐释怀，在最后一集才愿意把爸爸的骨灰埋葬，拥抱树干像抱着爸爸一样，和首集爸爸要求抱抱时非常抗拒的他形成很大的对比

他长大了，我想除了我们的爱人和我们分手时会让我们成长外，生命的逝去也绝对会让我们上宝贵的一刻，否则我们不会说“唉，人生无常”，好好珍惜眼前人之类的话吧？

因为死亡往往都让人措手不及，我们更应该好好的面对活着的日子，好好的过日子，爱你所爱的人，珍惜当下，忘掉不开心的事，做你想做的事，只要不是伤天害理就好了

当你有天有一点那么不惧怕死亡，那就代表你的人生已经开始过的充实，你也找到你自己的人生意义。这份意义不用和谁交代，只要你自己对的起你自己就好了。

心中有什么，眼里就会看到什么，愿每人心中每天开出一朵花

我们活在一个最好的时代，我们也同时活在一个最坏的时代。坏的是现实世界还是充满许许多多的恶人，他们以高姿态压榨底层人士的血汗，还想从中得到利益。像剧中的工读生被机器故障伤害因没有及时处理伤口最终病发生亡，但工厂的厂长却因为工读生父母都是聋哑人士而沾沾自喜认定家属不会追究责任因此而逃过一劫，然后还要在丧礼上高谈阔论自己有多厉害，简直不把丧子之痛的妈妈放在眼里。

或者一些恶人根本不屑自己家人的死活，唾弃自己刚走的生母或家婆，还想在逝者身上找到存折，留下什么金银财宝之类的。这个不孝的夫妻害怕玷污双手整理和打扫老婆婆的房间，却盛气凌人的警告整理师要速战速决打扫，找到什么贵重的东西就马上交到他们手上。在发现老婆婆床褥下一堆被尸水淹没的纸钞后却不假思索的伸手去捡！

是啊，是的，世界上这种人还是像老鼠那样在我们身边四处窜动，我们无可奈何之余也必须和他们呼着一样的空气， 但与此同时，别忘了，我们周围也有很多好人，他们不计回报的在为身边的人付出，默默关怀，像是move to heaven 的韩静佑爸爸和可鲁都是做了超过他们工作范围内的事，整理遗物之余誉也帮忙亡者拼凑回忆，把心中的爱传达给他们爱的人。

有或是像隔壁那个超热心的小姐姐那样时时刻刻都担心可鲁，保护可鲁，哪怕可鲁根本没在意，她也不在乎，只因她觉得可鲁是特别的人，是从小起长大的好朋友，而特别的人是很危险的，心中的正义因子就会在可鲁有麻烦或困难是卯起来保护他

还有剧里的美女社工（少女时代成员-秀英），社会上也有这么一班善良的天使在保护社会中的弱势群体，帮他们发声，捍卫他们的利益

还有那位社区保安大叔在艳阳天下也毫无怨言，身体都快垮了还得帮健壮的年轻人扛重物也不发一语 

他看似残酷的把太太的生命一并带走，所以尚久才会误解他是自私又无情的人，自己死就好了非得要连另一半的人生也带走

义工似有似物的一句话：眼前摆着一样的东西，有人看到爱，有人却看到恨，反映出人心的真实，我们心中想着什么就会看到什么

后来尚久才明白大叔和太太都已经命不久矣，谁会想到这位孤独老人在自家的小仓库为太太打造了一个最梦幻的小阳台，这里的一花一木都是他管理的社区大厦的住户抛弃的

大叔的丧礼和隔壁的大公司总裁的丧礼形成了鲜明的对比，也反映了现实社会对地位和权威的表现，连尚久都觉得偷了一个花圈应该也不会被人发觉

但是我们黑白分明的可鲁有怎会容忍这种手段，move to heaven  的花圈也道出了即使在这权利抗衡的世界上还是有不为利益付出爱的人

而且因为可鲁的天才记忆能力才发现大叔生前其实有在这个集团工作过，遗物里留下的数十年前的名片证明了大叔其实才是集团曾经的大前辈，也应验了你曾经的善意付出必会有所回报，最后丧礼上的某位大人物就记得大叔以前多提拔自己，也在大叔丧礼上上香，以不至于让大叔走的那么孤单

渐渐的剧情发展到最后，尚久也领悟了和自己自以为悲惨的人生相比，其实还有更不幸的人，自己其实是何等幸运。至少自己那位暖心的哥哥在自己每年的生日这一天都重稻覆撤去游乐园，买球鞋，去兑现未完成的诺言，尚久最终也明白了哥哥其实从未抛弃自己，这份迟来的爱真的感动了我，哭了个稀里哗啦的

我想最后尚久应该不会再看到亡者的遗物后断章取义，反而会更加用心的去观察到底这个亡者留下来的是什么的一个故事吧？

有好人，那自然就会有坏人。每个事情在每个人心中都会呈现不一样的层面，只愿人们不是一味的看到憎恨，愿大家心中都开出花朵

除此之外，本剧也呈现了很多韩国当下的社会状况，像孤独老人在自家死去没人发现，被弃养的婴孩被送到国外领养，如果自身条件先天性不足例如像剧中的Matthew有心脏病最后会被遣送回国面临身份问题

还有同性恋，一个女生在外独居的危险，和韩国警方处理问题的方法等。这些都不是新鲜事，但我们也只能寄望这一些剧情可以让观众产生少许共鸣，认清现实还存在的问题，为现今社会带来些许的改变。

总结来说，这部韩剧节奏虽然没有很明快，但是却娓娓道出人性和死亡的课题，是一部值得细细品位的小品，演员的演技也是如火纯青，期待第二季！

我其实不是一个爱看陆剧的人，尤其是现代剧，也许是因为偶然间在电视上看过几部一两集都不和我心意，就对这大陆的剧集很不感冒

不过前阵子我大学的朋友介绍我看《三十而已》，其实在她推荐之前我就听说这部剧了，因为在instagram上挺多人提起的，于是抱着跃跃一试的心态看了一集有一集到中间20几集开始就欲罢不能了

不得不承认我一开始真的找不到共鸣，即使我已经是30+的人，也许是因为上海的繁华或是在中国的生存方法和环境和我如今的生活差距甚远，或也可能单纯因为我所追求的和剧集里的30代女性有所不同吧

一开始甚至很看不过去大家憧憬的顾佳那么不择手段的去挤进太太圈，追求住在高级奢华公寓最顶层，买更加奢侈的名牌包包。我对这种物质主义真的是不太苟同的。

不过心想说不可能大家都觉得好看，也许看下去会有不同的领悟吧?

剧情解说我就不介绍了，网上都可以搜罗，主要是想记录我的感想

剧情发展到钟晓芹提出离婚后算是开始越来越精彩了，我看不惯陈屿那种大爷，无所谓的态度很久了，尤其是他每次出差都带一样的招财猫回来，还觉得老婆会喜欢=。=

所以当小芹提出离婚后我真的是挺痛快的，因为打从心里觉得这男人真的太不可靠了，即使我真的不推崇离婚，同时也一直在纳闷当初为什么她会和这种人在一起

但当然剧情有交代一开始他们是相亲认识，交往一年后结婚，而且婚前是很甜蜜的，但是婚后大家都不沟通，有什么都憋在心里

本来我还以为小芹会在离婚后单身越过越好，但没想到她真的接受那个小鲜肉，接着因为发现年龄的代沟不适分手再后知后觉自己其实一直都依赖着老公，生活中很多琐碎都没去打理，倒是理所当然的活在老公默默的付出的日子里

无可否认，陈屿看起来真的比小鲜肉靠谱多了，庆幸他自己也发现他的问题然后在剧集后期也改变了，我也没想过会有复合的梗 =。= 也许我有那种好马不吃回头草的原则吧

不过假如马本身也不够好，那很多事情也不应该太强调原则吧？从这事情看来，沟通在一段感情中真的很重要。不过很多事情都要经历后才会成长的，尚若小芹不是离婚了，她也不会发现自己的问题吧？后来我也从这事情上发现顾佳说的话很有道理，“先把一个人的日子过明白，才知道自己需要怎样的一个人”

小芹从小到大都没离开过家，离开家后就结婚了，老公出差她就回娘家，加上她骨子日一直认为会让人暗淡无光的家里琐碎事一直都是老公在默默处理。她出门拖鞋从来不放回原位，她抱怨难开的那把锁从没去想过她老公说的开的技巧，即使她不想学，她也只是叫老公换一把锁也不会自己去换，她也从来没担心过工作的前景还是之后的日子何去何从，因为她觉得发生什么大事她还可以回家，这从她和漫妮的对话中就可以发现。

所以当她发现她其实一直依赖着身边的人生活时，她才发现过去的自己有多不成熟。

果然重新开始不只是口头形式上的说说或是外在发型，妆容和穿着，还是所谓生活中的仪式感的改变，最重要的还是心态，打从心里的醒悟啊

也许是依赖了太久，更加不敢辜负别人的期待，担心自己拒绝别人后会带来的遭遇，甚至可以说其实一直都在逃避吧？只要活在舒适圈的心态？所以她没想过自己可以做些什么，觉得自己没什么本事，一直就这样安安稳稳也好

所以后来的离婚也的确让她慢慢改变，她开始学画画，写小说，至少她开始做她自己喜欢，想做的事了。某种程度上，小鲜肉其实也是小芹人生里的贵人，至少点醒了她应该学会拒绝，直面自己的想法。

为什么我一开始就写小芹呢，也许是我在她身上看到自己的影子吧。其实我也很依赖人的，虽然我有离开过家，也在外面自己一个人生活过。我觉得自己可以独立，但是当我和另一个人一起生活（譬如家人或男友）时，和同事一起工作时，或和朋友一起旅游时，我发现我会变的依赖另一半。比方说我家里的琐碎都是妈妈在管，虽然也是因为她本来在生活的琐碎上就比较有自己的意见，但是我发现在做一些生活，人生上的决定时我会很自然变得想问他们，然后听爸妈的话，什么都让他们替我决定。在工作上也是，我发现我无法做决定，会很在意我老板的看法，让我老板做决定，我遵循就好，这种做法反而让我老板定义为在工作上不够独立，不是说我无法自己做事，而是因为我瞻前顾后，无法做决定，不能很自信的说出自己想要的事情。至于旅行虽然一向都是我安排行程，但是我会很在意我的旅伴是否能接受我的行程即使他们都会说ok，到最后往往会顺从他们 （明明是我编排的行程），妥协他们反而搞到自己不悦。

除了依赖的问题，也透露了自己对自己的自卑，不直面自己的心情，感觉上压力都是自己给的。

其实我何尝不是温室里的花，只是离开家里后觉得没人依赖所以要靠自己，但是我却忘了人啊，本来就是独自来到这世上，没有理所当然的可以依赖对方，要求对方为自己做什么，每个人都有自己的事要做，让你依赖是那个人的选择，碰上这样好的人更加应该珍惜

所以经历了种种，小芹变得更坚强，也更懂得珍惜陈屿，且体恤她的丈母娘，也更加爱惜自己，看清楚自己想做的事，毅然辞职。

就像她說的可以的話要做一顆樹，嗯，好比心的強大的壯樹比隨時凋謝的花來的美好

接着是第二位主角，王漫妮。照理来说，我应该和她最相似，因为她也是天平座

但是也许是是我从来没接触过那种磨炼，我觉得自己没她那么拼，更别说是对欺压她的同事撂狠话，那是我绝对做不出来的。她一直都很勇敢，很努力，因为对自己有要求，所以也对另一半有要求。

当然她有一些特质是我觉得和我很像的，譬如犹豫不决要不要在邮轮升级到头等舱，还是在爱情里沉沦后迷失了自己，但是在發現自己當了小三后理性放手，瀟灑離開，這個原則和我一樣。過後遭遇失败后覺得心累選擇逃之夭夭回到老家去也是我可能會做的事情。

像上海这种大城市，即使生活压力庞大，大家还是不顾一切的往里钻，从内环搬到外环彷佛就好像跌入低谷，但是在那灯火通明的城市中没日没夜的打拼换来的不过是一个可以自我感觉良好的阳台。当房东决定卖房时，自己才发现自己来了上海8年也还在漂

漂的感觉很不好，居无定所，但是回到老家后就落地生根了吗？大家都说家是永远的避风港，没错，漫妮的确是逃回来的。

也像是顾佳说的这趟回家值了，因为她最终还是发现自己要的是什么了

人都是这样不是吗？大学后，出社会后都满怀壮志，想着自己在大城市扎根，发奋图强最后登上成功人士的位置

但是在那个过程中我们也会遭遇挫折，有时真的撑的住，但有时真的就这么一个被击倒了，一蹶不振。会迷茫自己究竟要的是否真的是自己想要的，有的人会无助的停留在原地，也许逃避，也许走一步算一步，有的人则是选择一走了之。年轻倒无所谓，但是在30的关卡前，谁能那么潇洒的说丢信就丢信，除非真的到忍无可忍，否则多数人就是停留在原地继续无奈叹气，力不从心的思索自己的出路。无论如何，我们终究不过是人，暂时逃跑其实也没什么大不了。只是千万要记得要认清自己的心，不要随波逐流。好比漫妮在老家随便找一个差做了，但她觉得无聊，没挑战性，而且同事间的无聊八卦或嘘寒问暖让她觉得自己在这个世外桃源显得格格不入

决定离开的确伤透了父母的心，但爸妈其实最终都是只希望自己的孩子幸福快乐，足矣。

我比较意外的是漫妮最后经历了那像足黑社会大姐头的收帐生活后毅然放弃了店长的职位，像未知的国度奔去。她决定去读书后的洒脱，自信都告诉我们人其实真的有无限的可能。其实我觉得漫妮虽然看起来好像自视清高，其实内心是蛮自卑的，可能在奢侈品柜台上班难免会对物质有欲望，从剧情后期发展可以看得出来她其实挺没自信的。她曾说她不敢置信自己会把應收这个任务做好，但是她用她的方法，有点厚脸皮的方法完成任务后，她才发现其实很多事情不是不可能的，只是看你要不要

王漫妮的角色在这部剧中有点梦幻，因为现实中很难会遇到艳遇，何况是那么有钱还需要追到那么辛苦的艳遇。梁正贤如果真实存在，恐怕早已在下船后就物色另一个女孩再去看极光。不过我觉得这种人在现实中是大有人在。

然后她的贵人，魏总，更加不可能遇到吧？不过戏剧终究是戏剧，王漫妮最后的积极正面也是带出了人终究必须面对自己内心，相信自己的信息。

最后来说顾佳，社交媒体上都很吹捧她这个角色，甚至有所谓的“顾学”。坦白说，一开始我不能苟同，尤其是她向往的上流社会，对太太圈的憧憬，名义上，是，那是为了得到资源，信息，生意；但是，她真的没有被物质欲望迷失过吗？

要不是茶厂的失败，恐怕她还在悠然自得自己有多厉害可以在太太圈中游走吧？

我不相信她是交心的去交际，所以到最后撕破脸后带走所谓自己的名字也没显得自己有多文化。我不是讨厌她这个人，只是觉得大家有点过度吹捧她。她是一个为了家庭和孩子可以不择手段的人，他的本事就像是王太太说的那句：“这女人有多狠，不是看她能站得多高，而是看她能蹲的多低”。

她的确狠，她想做的东西她会马上去尝试去做，哪怕她需要熬夜伤身伤神她都会奋不顾身。她的厉害源于她的高智商，高情商，毅力和坚持，当然还有她的自信。待他好的人她会心里惦记并记得回报，但是欺负她的人她就会加倍奉还。所以她和木子妈妈开战，向太太圈撂狠话，还有手撕小三时才会让观众看得意犹未尽。如此的人设，一定一大群吃瓜群众都会投向羡慕的眼光。劇情發展到後期我也開始對他另眼相看，但是我覺得這其實根本是編劇筆下的完美人設。

不过我倒觉得她在婚姻的失败上不是完全无过的，首先，她的确管制老公太多。不给吃晚餐真的有点强词夺理，在家她就是女王，大家都得听她的。她其實很自我，什麽都覺得自己說的是對的。嘴上说的为你好，其实坦白说都是她自己情绪勒索。徐幻山本来就是一个理想主义的人，说白一点，就是只会讲的人，因为一开始就臣服在老婆替他打出来的江山，所以往后的日子他就变成老婆奴了。他的确不甘心，不快乐，但是他从未说出来，所以顾佳也一直觉得他们家很幸福。如果一段感情稳如泰山，那试问小三能有机可乘吗？当然如同每一部剧的绿茶婊，这次的有有也是可恨，她的为爱而生精神我也真的服了。我不知道她是不是个只是不小心恋上有妇之夫的好女孩，但是我是觉得她极度有心机，最氣的是編劇居然把天秤座給了這個角色！我不认同她说的徐幻山的想法是她老婆强加给他的，如果是真的，那她喜欢的是顾佳包装出来的男人了。没有徐幻山的懦弱，就没有顾佳的强势，就没有小三的入侵，也没有破碎的婚姻。烟花厂的爆炸无疑成全了徐幻山的放手，也验证了顾佳说的蓝色烟火的危险和他们家真的是坐在油炸桶上。

如果这部剧真实发生，但愿我们的小宝宝许子言真的可以身心都健康成长。

没想到我写了这么多，话说回来，回到这部剧的主题： 30 而已。不能说因为这故事发生在上海就不能完全让我引起共鸣。的确中国的生活和新马真的很不一样，但是30这个岁数面临的课题其实也是一样的。

因为多数人在这个3字头前都会面对结婚，生孩子，当妈的压力，在事业上尚若未婚就会面对自己未来的出路，因为我们就是卡在一个没有很资深但是又不是新鲜人的局面

“一年年毕业的想要留下、一年年打工的想要留下，就像这杯水，满了总要溢出去，所以我们只能拼命地往下扎，给自己增重，才不会被挤出去。”

而在生活上，就如漫妮说的：“最先感知到30将至的，也许不是我们的身体，也不是精神，而是物质。比起情感的不安，物质的困顿才时时刻刻勒着你的脖子”

我不尽认同因为我觉得情感和身体更为重要，但是这应该是30以后的事情。物质嘛，我认同的是“二十歲追求的是樣式，三十歲追求的是品質”。

以前我也是觉得不用买贵的，买便宜的所以我可以有好几种款式，但当年纪大了后，我就再也不想要那么多款式了，一个价格稍微贵点但如果品质好且耐用的话，一个就够了。

有时会突然觉得，哇，我也会有这么一天！哈哈哈               

“沒有二十歲的肆意灑脫，沒有四十歲的雲淡風輕。三十，想要的是更好的生活。”

這個無比苟同，因爲我們卡在不上不下的年齡，或許到了40后又會有40的難題吧。不過還未到那時的我們就是在20瘋狂后的後勁后想讓自己更加能過更好的生活

記得那時kelvin在遊説我去新加坡時告訴我30才是一切的開始。當時的我其實真的得到了勇氣，因爲30的我真的很怕自己又要重新來過，已經沒有像20那樣能夠承擔跌倒的後果，怕離開原地后失敗了不懂要何去何從。

但是人生就那麽一次，其實沒那麽複雜

如果不嘗試又如何知道自己可以走的多遠？我們都被社會無形設下的框框，人們懷疑的眼光影響，其實綁住我們的是我們自己。30，真的只是一個數字而已。不管幾嵗都會面對不一樣的難題，就如劇集所說的：“生活的本質就是，千難之後還有萬難”

“等我們到四十歲的時候會不會也覺得，現在眼前的一切，不過三十而已？”

就像現在的我回頭看以前20面對的問題，真的就不過而已。

至於這部劇結局滿意嗎？我倒覺得沒什麽問題，因爲人生就是這樣，起碼故事中的3人最後都過了他們想要的生活。整部劇下來我並沒有被哪一個角色圈粉，雖然劇情寫實，但是各方角色還是沒讓我討喜。我唯一留下印象的，意外地是高海寧飾演的趙靜語，雖然沒什麽戯份，但每次出場都很亮眼/

總結來説，是一部算是在2020 年值得一看的劇集，希望在30嵗的女人們都可以過上你真正想要的生活

Kick start September with a dark rich hot chocolate at Seraph Awaken.

Have this when Hui Bee, Bee Peng and I went to visit Chyi, she is working part-time during weekend at this famous vintage café in Klang.

Then, I also catch up with Carlyn for the last time in KL, we went to Merdeka square.

This is my first time visiting here.

I will miss KL a lot!

We also went to KL city gallery nearby, you will be surprised there are so many fun places to visit in our capital.

Somehow, I still wish to return KL after working few years in Singapore. I really don’t see myself staying in that island for long term.

Lunch was at LOKL coffee co, food was not too bad.

Then, we continued our outing at Bank Negara Museum, we had been planning to visit this fun place since few months ago.

This museum display more than the history of coins, it had so many fun stuff to interact with.

The spiral stairs where we always see on Instagram

Wish I am rich!

Following that, we finished our day at Tokyo restaurant @Fahrenheit for dessert.

The matcha swiss roll is delish, heavenly good!

As for basque cheese cake, I still prefer the original version which is more authentic and creamy.

Ooh? Since when McD’s has changed its name?

Next person I farewell is Karen, we had dinner at a random Japanese restaurant in subang area.

I was really surprised to receive this lovely gift from Karen, such a pretty frame!

Thank you for your sweet gesture, I really like this, and I will keep it nicely in Malaysia.

I also drafted a journal post on this, hehe

Farewell with colleagues again, in a smaller gang, with Maz, Su and Shoei Yeou.

Then another one for dinner, with Poi Yee and Shoei Yeou at Sukiya.

Talking about farewell, I also have another one with Jennifer and Shoei Yeou, I guess Shoei Yeou is the one I have most frequent farewell within this month.

We went to The Good Co, another café at Bangsar where I had been aiming to visit.

Have my favorite acai bowl ~

 Shoei Yeou have the nasi lemak, but she said is not that good.

We continued dessert at Nutmeg in Bangsar Village I, cakes here have more variety and looks promising.

I received so many good stuffs this month, Jennifer have gifted me my birthday present in advanced.

Then I also catch up with Wai Ee for the last time before departing to Singapore.

We met at Sunbather café, kinda like this place because of the good vibe and cozy ambient.

The nice cut of Japanese style sando, omg, so wholesome.

The buckwheat pancake is good too!

Then we moved to Meet Joe for another dessert.

I gave a small farewell gift to my soon to be ex-colleagues too, as my usual practice.

Then also have a farewell lunch with Hao, Shoei Yeou also join along.

Then the last farewell is with my high school mates, they also celebrate my birthday in advanced because I will have my birthday in Singapore.

Shoei Yeou also made me one sketch book, so touched, this is the first sketch book I received in my life. I had made this for a few friends but never received one from anyone.

Thank you!

Poi yee and Shoei Yeou also have gifted me another birthday present, they are aware of my recent broken powerbank. Thank you!

Another good news this month, my nephew finally born!!

So grateful to be able to meet you before leaving. You grow well ok!

I will miss my niece very much too!

Claimed my birthday gift from Laneige, I like their sleeping mask. =)

I also have more frequent dinner with my family, Dalgabi also has opened in Klang, I just discovered that my niece love cheeses a lot.

This day finally come, so sad, I will miss my family a lot, if I can choose again, I wonder will I make this decision to leave Malaysia.

But I had made up my mind isn’t it?

This is the room I going to stay for my first month, I would not deny this apartment provided for my first month of stay by my new company is posh.

I will enjoy this first month!!

My first dinner in Singapore is with Kelvin, I think he is quite happy that I finally decide to move to Singapore.

Another thing that made me happy is don don donki is very close to where I am staying this first month, I can enjoy all these bentos.

Ok, I will keep posting many photos, mainly food.

This is the soup that my brother kept telling me to try, not bad.

Oh I love mochi! Bought this from Don Don Donki.

Then Kelvin brought me to this apparently popular Korean restaurant at Tanjong Pagar, food was not bad.

Such a nice mural art.

This pizza is good!! (at common coffee@ Upper Thomson road)

Bingsu at late night omg, I eating so much on my first month in Singapore.

This local style dessert is very unique, combining the Chinese dough (油条) with green bean soup (tong shui), I don’t really enjoy it.

I have this with Pui Yee, my Uni friend, yes, she also has recently moved to Singapore.

For sure not missing the local brand Liho, apparently it is very easy to get bubble tea everywhere in Singapore.

Kelvin also bought me one, this is another Taiwanese brand.

Oh, I have something to announce too.

I am officially having a relationship with Kelvin since 22^nd Sep, so shy to announce this haha

Guess what is this? This is HK noodle in Papaya based soup, yes, I mean the fruit.

It is sweet and delight.

This is the view from my office HQ at Suntec city, I went there in one of the days in September for some reason. Sitting at my boss seat, oops.

Gardens by the bay, finally have come here!

Also went to Marina bay sands, but food here is expensive.

Tiger Sugar milk tea have so many franchises in Singapore, don’t have to bother queueing up, but we did queue a bit.

Oh, Gudetama café! Hmmm probably can pay a visit.

Coconut drink vendor machine~

Another weekend spent at Clark Quay, also is my first visit.

Fish porridge is also a must eat in Singapore, most importantly, is very safe as it would not fail your taste bud easily.

I mean it, generally Singapore food is not nice if compared with Malaysia.

On the last day of September, which is also my birthday, my colleagues have brought me to this Japanese restaurant to have Japanese style collagen steamboat.

This is collagen, extracted from chicken, the broth is so sweet, dense and creamy.

Portion for 2 persons but so thick and rich which can fit an elephant lol.

Then this is a onigiri, but more like a fusion kind.

Yes, there are only 2 colleagues with me at the Singapore office, we are not based at HQ due to our different job functionality.

However, to me, this is perfectly fine because I really dislike office politics.

Kelvin brought me to tonkatsu for my birthday dinner, so yummy!

We have Lady M for dessert, still so great!

My manager also gifted me a present, hmmmm, she said I did not have water bottle, so she bought me one. Thank you for being so observative.  

That’s my happening September. I really miss Malaysia.

Another fruitful and happening month for me because I am departing to Singapore next month. In this case, August become the last full month in Malaysia to me.

Bakel’s kitchen have thrown the QA manager, Catherine a birthday celebration, with watermelon. =.=

I hope Catherine is sincerely happy with this “creative cake”.

Wo-men group also have another gathering with Thai style hot pot, but the smoke level is killing me. =(

We decided to move to another location for catch-up.

Mamak, I have cheese and garlic naan.

Meanwhile I also start announcing my departure.

Therefore, I will have many catch-up sessions in August.

I told Jennifer during our catch-up at Little People café, another popular café in social media.

I think the food was just alright.

My wound is getting healed.

I also met Wai Ee at Breakfast thieves @ APW Bangsar, I had been longing for this place for some time.

Their baked egg is yummy!

We ate so much that day, we even went to Proof at next door for truffle pizza!

And a dessert pizza, omg!

This little girl come to visit too, aww, I will miss her so much!

Kelvin come back this month too, we had Tsukemen together at Mitsuyado Seimen @ Starling Mall.

This is my first attempt for tsukemen, a kind of dry thick noodle to eat together with a special dip sauce originated from Japan.

I like the dip sauce, very thick and flavorful.

Kelvin told me he is a sucker for cake, so I brought him to Rekindle.

He is happy that I will join him in Singapore, haha.

I also went to Mama Kim for the first time, with Shoei Yeou and Poi Yee, soon to be my ex-colleagues.

They had been addicted to this healthy vegan restaurant by Herbal Line lately.

To me, this place is just like Simple Life, provide more fancy but healthy meals.

My family recently also found a Vietnamese restaurant in our neighborhood, their Vietnamese dishes not just authentic, but also come with large portion and reasonable price.

Huey Yee also is one of the friends in my list to catch up this month.

I proposed to meet at the Farm Food craft @ Bangsar South.

This place is a bit fancy, perhaps is more suitable for couples to come for a fine dining occasion.

Food I would say is fresh, rather than yummy.

However, Sunbather Coffee café at the same place is worthy for multi-visit.

Apparently, this place is also counterpart café of Kakiyuki café (formerly known as Kakigori café), but their chocolate roll cake was not as good as their sister café’s match roll cake.

The deconstructed feta cheesecake is so innovative and delicious!

The cheese is rich and perfectly blend with the rose scented ice cream and baklava bits.

Loey come again, haha. We have many good times.

Another catch-up, with Li Ting at Les Petits Jours café at Cheras.

This café only provides 3 menus daily, their food is more home-made and simpler.

I was amazed with their cakes, simple yet yummy.

MT from Japan have a small pop up exhibition at Kinokuniya KLCC, I purposely went to visit and had a good time.

I had been addicted to washi tape since early this year, MT is the pioneer when come to washi tapes but I never have any of their product.

Hence, I took this advantage to see their products.

They even have gachapon!

Stamp to mark my visit~

I am impressed how people can create artwork with washi tapes!

In the end, i bought some washi tapes home:

Of course, I also met up Carlyn in KL, we went to have a very yummy lunch at Chocha Food Store.

Their cincalok fried chicken is so crispy and yummy!

The braised duck with rice also is irresistible.

Then we went to Lorong Panggung aka Kwai Chai Hong (Ghost Lane) in Cantonese for photo sessions XD

OOTD photos at this place had gone viral in social media since it had transformed with mural art and packaged with cultural stories. 

Petaling Street was so hot, we went to Vintage 1988 café for a chilled drink.

There are so many nice café along this street, really wish I have bigger stomach to eat all of them.

Another dinner at the neighborhood Vietnamese restaurant.

Bahn mi and the Vietnamese style rice dumpling dessert.

As mentioned in last month blog post, I will tender once my work visa in Singapore is approved. This had happened in mid-August, my future company had bought me over for 1 and a half month, my last day would be in early September after deducting my remaining annual leaves.

Bakels’ sales colleagues had started farewell with me, lol. They brought me to this Puchong seafood porridge restaurant to have such a luxurious seafood meal, thank you!

This would be my last banana leave rice too, because I am not a fan of banana leaves, but the occasion of having this had become a lot since I joined Bakels 3 years ago.

Then, this group would be the one I miss the most!

We had a farewell gathering cum mooncake festival celebration at Derrick’s house.

The Malaysia dream card game is so much fun and entertaining!

We even carried the lantern and walked around the neighborhood!

So funny, as we could not find any stick to hold the lantern, we used hanger XD

I met Li Ting again during end of the month, at Snitch By The Thieves @ Gardens Mid Valley.

Their food is very healthy and yummy, worthwhile to visit again.

Another usual family lunches.

Bee Peng’s bday also happening this month, I think probably hard for me to join these celebrations in the future.

Guess I probably will miss this scene too?

My colleague, Siti had created this special farewell lunch invitation for me, haha.

The farewell lunch at Nando’s went smoothly with my colleagues from R&D and QA department.

I gave a speech to thank my colleagues for all the help and support given during my 3 years journey. I think I will miss them.

Then, after so long, I also met my other colleague, Gina for a beer session with dinner.

We went to a western cuisine at Kota Kemuning, their paella is quite good.

Last but not the least, I brought my family to Petaling street today because I really want my dad to try out the cincalok fried chicken at Chocha food store.

He like it, but I don’t think he is impressed haha.

We also ordered other food, but is not impressive as the braised duck and cincakook fried chicken.

We also had fried sweet potato ball at Petaling street

That’s all for my August in 2019. I will certainly enjoy the last 2 weeks in Malaysia in coming September.